Part 5: Blocking Him Wasn’t Petty—It Was Necessary
“Becoming — All of Me”
Blocking him wasn’t an emotional reaction.
It was a strategic decision.
Most women don’t block a man because they hate him.
They block him because access had become a liability to their healing.
Every conversation reopens a wound.
Every “check-in” reset their progress.
Every breadcrumb kept them emotionally available to someone who had already shown them who they were.
Closure didn’t come from another conversation.
It came from distance.
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Choosing Yourself Without Explanation
When a woman blocks a man repeatedly from an emotional place, it’s often a sign of confusion—of being pulled back into a cycle that keeps reopening wounds.
But this time was different.
This time, she chose herself—without explanation.
Without justification.
Without hoping he would finally understand.
Those were the moments her nervous system finally exhaled.
Walking away didn’t mean she lost.
It meant she stopped bleeding.
Some connections don’t end because there’s no love.
They end because love is no longer safe there.
Blocking wasn’t petty.
It wasn’t dramatic.
It wasn’t avoidance.
It was protection.
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Loving All of Me: The Release I Didn’t Expect
As I reflected on this journey, the Holy Spirit had me listening to All of Me by John Legend.
The lyrics landed differently in this season— I realized that true freedom comes when you love all of yourself—not just the parts that feel worthy or chosen. Loving myself completely released me from the lies I believed, the rejection I internalized, and the hope I placed in someone who could not honor me.
Self-love isn’t passive.
It’s active.
It’s choosing peace over patterns that keep you emotionally suspended.
It’s reclaiming the parts of yourself you gave away hoping someone else would care for them.
And in that love, you finally breathe.
You finally exhale.
You finally walk free.
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Protection Comes in More Than One Form
Blocking is powerful—but it isn’t the only way to be done.
True closure doesn’t always require digital silence.
It requires internal work.
Work from the inside out:
• Heal the emotional wounds that were left behind
• Rebuild your confidence and boundaries
• Relearn what safe, healthy love looks like
• Release the fantasy of what could have been
• And commit to loving yourself through the process
Sometimes protection looks like silence.
Sometimes it looks like reflection, discipline, and choosing yourself over hope for someone else.
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The Freedom in Boundaries
Choosing to protect yourself is the ultimate act of self-respect.
It’s messy.
It’s hard.
And sometimes it’s lonely.
But it’s necessary.
When you stop bleeding for someone who refuses to honor you, you reclaim your peace.
You reclaim your power.
You reclaim you.
And that is the final step in walking away—physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Loving all of yourself is the release that finally sets you free.
